Writer Dalila Kahvedzic explores young love
By: DALILA KAHVEDZIC
Staff Writer
When looking at love today and looking at love in the 70s and 80s, it is evident that many things have changed. Scroll down your Facebook newsfeed and look at all the fourteen year olds claiming to be in love. Are such claims believable? Probably not. At the age of fourteen my biggest worry was whether or not I would get to hang out with my best friend on a Friday night. Movies like “High School Musical” make love in high school seem better than it is. Sure, there are a few lucky people that end up with their notorious “high school sweetheart”, but such people seem to be rare. At the age of fourteen (or even younger) people like to think that they know what love is; but are they actually old enough to know? Are they mature enough to maintain a true relationship? Speaking from personal experience, some seventeen year old people don’t know how to keep a good and healthy relationship going, so how in the world is a child of fourteen supposed to?
Society nowadays has lowered the standards for relationships. Romance seems completely rare and has been replaced by lust. Girls are losing self-respect for themselves and their bodies by trying to adjust to what all the guys want. Competition seems to be a daily thing “I’m better than her because I’m skinny,” or “I’m better because I’m thick.” When it comes down to it, none of that matters because true love doesn’t happen with the eyes but with the heart. Opening the car door for a girl or doing something sweet for her is described as being “whipped” (being completely controlled by your girlfriend/boyfriend). Rather than going up to a girl’s door and picking her up for a date, a text is received with “I’m here, come outside”. Technology seems to have a big role in today’s relationships as well, considering some people would actually consider, “Oh my god he/she hasn’t texted me back within 20.5 seconds; he/she hates me.”
Although this topic can be debated, I believe love isn’t always perfect and maturity is needed for a good and stable relationship. Silence should be comfortable and big and expensive dates should not be necessary. Self-confidence is required because nobody should have to depend on somebody else to make someone feel good. Love should help you grow, not hold you back. Love should be absolutely in every sense of the word magical.
