The art of lovemaking and all things involved in it is a beautiful thing. Adult Content explores sexuality and all it’s endeavors.
Jacob Hight
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Penises aren’t always as straightforward as one might think. They come in all shapes and sizes; circumcised, uncircumcised; decorated, undecorated. As with genitals in general, the penis is a deeply intimate part of the male partner, a unique expression of him, an organ through which he gives and receives love and passion.
Whether given by God or natural by nature, our bodies just are what they are. Unfortunately, a highly visible and vocal part of society thrives on apathetic humor, objectification and judgmental expectations focused on self-gratification instead of empathy, acceptance and love.
Sadly, many of us settle for ego and pleasure instead of happiness, not even realizing that is what we’re doing, or worse, that there’s even a difference. It would appear, sometimes, living from the heart is too painful. But we must.
Something lovely to try, is to hold your partner’s erection in your hand, feeling his heart beat pulse through his penis. Or if lying side-by-side, listening to his heart beat at the same time.
Partners beginning the sexual journey with their special someone might make the innocent mistake of gripping their partner’s erection too tightly, uncomfortably tugging the skin as they stroke. It’s important to let skin glide over skin. Using some sort of lubrication (such as Astroglide or saliva) makes it easier for the hand to glide; wetness also increases sensitivity.
More experienced types might try “dry-lube” such as baby powder for a dry and silky stroke.
If not using lubrication, it’s important to keep the grip somewhat loose.
Whether wet or dry, a super loose grip can be a great way to playfully tease your partner, revving up his craving for a firm touch, creating an intense rush of satisfaction when the firm grip finally comes.
For those that slept through physics and geometry, angles play a significant role in how force is distributed. In the bedroom this means while an up-down stroke can be a nice home-base to return to, just slightly tilting your hand as you stroke can deliver more contact to the head of the penis, either on the underside or top, as the hand strokes down.
If a male partner wants to explore more intense options, one way to explore this is rubbing the tip of the penis. Firmly grasping the base of the penis with the non-dominant hand, press the palm of the dominant hand over the opening of the urethra; slowly or quickly rub the palm over the tip, or caress with a circular, angled motion.
It’s best to use lube for this, as well as determining a time goal (suggest starting at 10 seconds and working up).
Something similar is slightly pulling the skin on the shaft down, just enough pull the head of the penis taught. Stroking the head of the penis with a firm grasp this way can be exhilarating.
Whether loving whispers, or rumbling instructions, communication and respecting boundaries are the road to even better stuff.
Next time “Experimenting and the Sexual Spectrum.”
Until next semester, live from the heart; make love; wear a condom.
