The art of lovemaking and all things involved in it is a beautiful thing. Adult Content explores sexuality and all it’s endeavors.
Jacob Hight
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While sitting naked in front of your partner (with the lights on), in soft, loving, or sexy voices, take turns listing the qualities about the other person that you love or see as beautiful. Intellect, humor, kindness, patience – say anything and everything from the general attributes to specific moments or actions. If you list a physical attribute, touch it or kiss it, softly, gently and with great care.
This world in-between, this world beyond, this secret world, is where truth is discovered and lies die. Anything is possible; two lovers have arrived.
It is easy to feel awkward, afraid or embarrassed in a society that trains us and others to be insensitive. We wear masks to hide our true selves, so we are not hammered into molds that weren’t measured for our hearts and souls. Eventually we believe in the mask; as if caught by a boa constrictor, our infinitely free mind begins to suffocate.
Seen through each others’ loving eyes, lovers are safe, to be naked, to feel joy, to laugh, to worry, to hope, to love. They’re safe to reach out through eyes, fingers and words, saying “I am human. I need your love.”
We forget it just takes a change of mind to free ourselves; even when we know, it could be hard to let go. Muffin-top doesn’t really matter, size doesn’t really matter, unless we make it matter with our point of view.
Often we associate pleasure with being good or lovable; repeating or continuing with these lists of positive qualities as your partner approaches orgasm, even during or after, can be especially meaningful.
For some this might challenge self-beliefs or habitual emotions. It is critical the speaker be sincere; the listener must be open. Even so, it may take many times to truly begin to accept what each partner has to say.
Sometimes when we let go of negative beliefs, or are challenged by positive beliefs, it can open our heart and sometimes we cry. Sometimes we don’t want to believe again, like a leg that’s fallen asleep. It is a vulnerable moment; we must meet our partner’s humanity with our own.
Such emotionally deep moments may not be common, but once passed through there is new depth.
Truly “making love,” being aroused by your partner’s being, the intimacy (they know you like no one else), and the pleasure given to each other, can keep sex fresh and new, because you are constantly discovering each other, sharing a new unique moment together, being reborn like a phoenixes out of the fire.
“Fucking” can become boring. Anyone can do it, it always ends the same way, and it doesn’t necessarily mean anything.
Even so, everything has a time and place; beastly passion and intimate, wild chases or competitions can be just as meaningful. Fiercely seizing the moment, can still be making love.
It is when we love that we feel happiness. In this ever changing world, where things are torn away, ready-or-not, it only takes three words to touch the sky, three words to make hourglasses freeze and clocks skip a beat: “I love you.”
Next time “Porn.”
Until next time, make love.
